24 Book Club Discussion Questions for Let Them by Mel Robbins

If you’re reading Let Them by Mel Robbins with your book club on Bookum, these questions are designed to spark meaningful conversations about personal growth, control, happiness, and relationships. Whether your group is focused on self-help, motivation, or mindset, this guide will help you connect Robbins’ insights to your own life.

Discussion Questions

1 - The core of Let Them is about releasing control. What situations in your life would improve if you simply said “let them”?

2 - Robbins argues that the problem isn’t you it’s the power you give to others. Do you agree? Why or why not?

3 - How do you currently respond to other people’s drama or judgments, and how might “let them” shift your reactions?

4 - The book highlights eight key areas of life where Let Them applies. Which area feels most relevant to you right now?

5 - What’s an example of a time you wasted energy trying to control someone or something? How could Let Them have helped?

6 - Robbins shares personal stories throughout the book. Which story resonated with you the most and why?

7 - How does the Let Them Theory connect to other self-help or mindset frameworks you’ve read, such as boundaries, detachment, or stoicism?

8 - How might applying Let Them at work improve your professional relationships or reduce stress?

9 - The book emphasizes focusing on what you can control your goals, your happiness, your energy. How do you decide what’s truly worth your focus?

10 - Which part of the book challenged your thinking the most?

11 - Robbins blends science, psychology, and ancient wisdom in her approach. Did you find one perspective more convincing than the others?

12 - How do you personally recognize when you are over-controlling or over-managing a situation?

13 - Compare Robbins’ no-nonsense tone to other motivational writers you’ve read. How does her style impact the message?

14 - How does Let Them apply to relationships, both friendships and romantic? What would change if you fully embraced it?

15 - In what ways does the book help readers build resilience against everyday stressors?

16 - Robbins writes about creating the love you deserve. How does Let Them change your expectations for relationships?

17 - What role does self-doubt play in keeping people stuck, and how does this theory help overcome it?

18 - How does Let Them encourage risk-taking in creativity, career, or personal growth?

19 - The book argues that comparison steals energy. What strategies do you use or could you use to break free from comparison?

20 - What does success mean to you after reading this book, and how does Let Them influence that definition?

21 - Robbins often connects her teachings to her podcast audience. How do you think the conversational, direct tone affects the book’s impact?

22 - Which expert voices or research examples in the book did you find most valuable?

23 - What is one concrete step you can take this week to put Let Them into practice?

24 - Overall, how would you rate the usefulness of this book for someone feeling overwhelmed or stuck?

Why These Questions Work for Book Clubs

• For self-help readers: They connect theory to lived experience.
• For group growth: They encourage vulnerability and practical reflection.
• For book club leaders: They’re structured for easy facilitation with open-ended prompts.

Tip: Want to go deeper? Try hosting your discussion on Bookum, a social book club app where readers can create real-time conversations around books like Let Them. It’s a great way to bring Robbins’ ideas into practice with a supportive community.